Long has it been since,anyone in my close vicinty bothered bringingup the topic of our existence and our mechanics.’The thing that makes us Tick’.I had the pleasure of having such conversations with many of my friends,sadly till then we were just naively agreeing that Society defined us.Society moulded us into the beings we are today.Society played a huge role in what we are doing today.So much of society doing this and that…and so many publications and articles with authors pointing out the blunt fact that society has been the harbringer of evil in our very modern society.The expectations,the rules,the culture and the more importantly the “Class” created by society that has brought about various unwanted cracks and pressures which we despise.
However,closer inspection dictates one simple fact.:Society is just the hardware.It simply governs us by placing limits and boundaries by which we ought to obey.Yet,we have never blamed the software installed that has governed and translated us into being who we are today.Our Upbringing.More closely,our parents.Our guardians.
Well,it may seem immature and also misplaced to easily place the blame on Parents.Faulting them,without a blink,for all our blunders.However,one must also take note that the purpose of this article is not with the aim of placing a blame.But more importantly,discovering the source of our governance.Why do we act the way we do?Why do we feel the way we do?Why do we want things the way we like?So many whys,and just one answer.Our parents.They aren’t the problem,but just the source of our answer.
Our primary behavioural pattern can be congregated into either being very similar in traits to our parental unit or very different in traits to our parental unit.This could be added up to the fact that we have always subconsciously monitored every influence in our lives.We study every event very closely and moulded ourselves in a either-or manner.Thus saying,we are more of a self correcting model.A model that seeks to improve at every step in our live.But upon saying that,let me re-iterate that such behaviour are not inapt in every human.It can be widely absent in many individauals who prefer the latter,to repeat the action/behaviour that brings the undesired event.Some do get the kick out of it,some refuse to learn.And most believe that they will be able to change the outcome by staying on the already undesired path.
With such an analytic behaviour already present at a young age,we spin out webs of attachment to our parental unit.We analyse their behaviours,more importantly those which brings them pain and those that bring joy.Such repeated events,constantly burn an imagery within us that when we repeat such ourselves and are faced with the same pain/joy,we tend to analyse and associate ourselves with them.At those point,we humans decide.We decide whether we feel solace in being alike to our parental unit or feel insecure or are disgusted in being emotionally alike.Such forms of decision-making congruently,moulds our behaviour and thus character.
Behaviour such as the need for achievement,seeking for a higher social status aka “The Money Making Machine” and any associated wealth related flaw is not merely our society’s fault.Sure such situations were created by our very democratic society,thus creating the oppportunities to fill up such flawful positions.But they arent responsible for creating the gaping hole that never gets satisfied with the cash inflow.Logically looking,if i am to place a bundle of money and someone steals it,the blame is on me.Not the other thief.Logical?Rather the blame should be on the need within the thief to steal.The need already created.Summing up,many wealth related behavioural issues can be well answered if we were to dwell long on our development.
Many a time,the situations which our parents have lived in changes us.Lets just say if you have been leaving very wealthily,many do tend to want to leave wealthily or may choose for a more simpler live instead.Simply putting,we learn from our parent’s success and their faults.By observing their very sucess we decide very early in our lives,how we want to keep on living.And we continue that way on.Many,succesful people have grown out and from a very less successful and financial background.In most of such instance,they are guided by the misery of their parents to create a better life for themselves.And the deifnition of a better life,just remains vague.It has varied from being very rich,to filthy rich to being rich without any end…And the means to such wealth,lets jut say it varies with our moral shape.Yes,i am hinting towards the tax evasion…probably arms dealing…drug dealing.
In a final summation,My experience has projected the simple fact that answer tend to be more complicated than they seem.Not the very famous,”The answer might be closer than you think”.Nobody really cares how far or close the answers,we seek,are.We care mostly,for how simple or complicated it is.And it is always complicated for if it wasn’t,there wouldn’t be a question right.?
(c) Copyright Rajiv Rai 2008
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